In relationships, there’s a big difference between “seeing” and “listening.”
When we see someone, we do no get to know them for who they are, we just see their beauty. And although beauty is exiting and enjoyable, there is not connection. But when we listen to someone, we hear them, without distraction.
This is why at Mount Sinai, when the Jews demanded to see God, God refused. God insisted on speaking to them people. He was saying: “I don’t want to impress you with my glory, i want you to listen to me!”
This is how God has taught us to live. This is why the Torah tells us to dress in ways that stimulate listening, instead of seeing.
